Alright, I've got an update everyone! 😎
My fellow P'amigos @PeppyPatti @Former-Member and @Glisten ~

Recently I wrapped up with these 2 books that I cannot stop sharing with others about. May not be suitable for everyone, but I'll share a little and if you're interested, I encourage you to check them out!

How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera (@The.holistic.psycholigist on social media)

This book shared the lived experience of the author, which firstly made me recognise the authenticity of the writing and that it was not just another 'professional' telling me what I needed to do in my life to feel better. They covered how to set and maintain boundaries (with AMAZING examples), spoke about different attachment styles and the examples shared from their lived experience highlighted some of the experiences many of us perhaps share, that we did not recognise as trauma in our adult years. The biggest takeaway for me was around boudnary setting, LePera suggested for us to tune in to HOW WE FEEL when we are with someone, how do they register in our body? and focus on how you will respond differently (after a boundary has been set), rather than the other person's reaction or response to it. This book is under $20 at BigW, Kmart and even Amazon. I'm going to buy myself a copy to refer to!

It's Not You: How to identify and heal from NARCISSISTIC people by Dr. Ramani Durvasula

A lot of people will say the word narcissist is thrown around so easily, but for those of us who have experienced narcissistic abuse, we know what's up. I love watching this psychologist's videos on Youtube and listened to this as an audiobook (11 hours!) - she also provides many examples throughout the book on how to set boundaries, how to care for ourselves, living authentically and what recovery can look like after narcissistic abuse. I was hooked and think I listened to the whole book over one weekend! She is so full of knowledge in this area - check out her Youtube if you want to see what she's about first - https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani

Both of these books have impacted me greatly in the past month - and both have made me feel less alone knowing that both authors have their own lived experience in their specific field of interest, which allows me to be like "ahhh, I can do this too, recovery is near and I feel less alone". 

Happy reading!

Warmest, 

PizzaMondo 🙂

P.S. If anyone else has read either of these, would be interested to hear about your learnings!