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[ENKELI]

@Dreamy I needed these today.

After 50 years of taking my fathers' emotional abuse I finally stood up to him. His response? He told me to can the petty spite and to F*CK OFF (yes he put it in capitals). Guess I won't be getting a Christmas present this year...

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I hope everyone is having a good day. Despite what you may feel,  YOU MATTER

Much love 

E x

[Dreamy]

@ENKELI oh my sweet Enkeli, I'm sorry you've had to suffer so much emotional abuse from your father. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself but I'm so sorry that was his response. Sending you hugs beautiful ❤️.

[AuntGlow]

I am so sorry this happened @ENKELI... I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. Know that we are all here with you. Sending big hugs your way. 🥰

[ENKELI]

@Dreamy thanks honey. My brother just told me father tried to call him but my bro declined the call. The most hurtful part is that I know my brother wouldn't stand up for me. I don't know if I am expecting too much from those who love me but none of them have ever stood up for me. My ex friend never did anything about the verbal abuse I got from her ex husband and his girlfriend and my brother is the same. I know bro would let dad rant and rave and K [edited by moderator] would ignore it. He wouldn't say "well maybe you should try and see things from her side" or anything that I would say if the roles were reversed.

I think that hurt more than the actual email.

Your support is so gratefully received 🫂xoxo

[ENKELI]

@AuntGlow thanks beautiful. I appreciate you so much, as well as everyone else I am close to on Sane. As I mentioned to @Dreamy it hurts that I wouldn't get any support from anyone offline. No one ever stands up for me and I am used to that but it still stings like heck.

I hope your day is going well xo

[Ru-bee]

@ENKELI that's a really hard feeling to be sitting with. I'm hearing how unsupported you feel in regards to those around you, but I am glad that you're able to feel supported here. You're such an important part of our community!

Also quick note - we've just replaced the name in your post above with the first initial

[ENKELI]

@Ru-bee oh my goodness! I am so sorry about that, I can't believe I mentioned my brother by name. Thank you so much for that, I was not thinking when I posted and it shows!

much love and hugs

[Cuddlebear]

@ENKELI  My beautiful friend. I’m personally very proud of the strength and courage to tell your father he’s an abuser. His response is disgusting. 

You have people here to truly care about you. We know he’s an abuser and I knew I would tell him he is an abuser and that you are completely correct. I’m on your side. 

I know it would most likely hurt his reply to you. Please know he is the abuser and he’s the only one who needs to f*** off. I’m sorry you’ve been unsupported by your brother and that you’ve had abusive treatment from others too. 

sitting here with you. You are not alone OK. We have a lot of love and respect for you here on the forums. 

[Bunniekins]

@ENKELI  oh ENKELI you did the right thing in standing up to your father.  sweetheart i know first hand how you feel.  i really do.  hugs and hugs my dear friend stay strong hunny i am here if you need me. love to you always ENKELI xxxx

[ENKELI]

@Cuddlebear thank you so much for your response. I really appreciate it (I am in tears of gratitude with all of the kind things you and others have said.) I did send him a message that said "so you're allowed to write me a vicious letter aided by your wife - my stepmonster - and tell me you know longer have a daughter not once but twice, as well as telling me to F off but when I do it it's petty? Have you ever consider that it is you that caused me to act this way?"

I signed off using his name and not calling him dad, said I loved him but didn't like him.

I know my sister will pretend to support me IF she even reaches out to me because the insem*nator (as a friend once called him) will bleat to her about how awful I am but in reality she will pander to him and agree with everything he says. That doesn't hurt so much because she is very much like him and I've known that for many years.

I hope you are having a lovely day and again, thank you sweetheart 🫂🤗