~ The Toolshed ~

[PeppyPatti]

Dear @Cuddlebear 

 thoughts come up for me when I read a little of your story but also reflections. 
when I first met you I felt like a kindness which was nice in your words. 
yes, this awful story that your dealing with your friends and changing anti depressants ………

but before I lurch into my own stories of friends letting me go - 

I feel - please let me know if I’m wrong but maybe your speaking from your own fear that your daughter can’t see you ? 

I mean if this is your story of your daughter being hesitant at  the same time being flicked by friends when your mental health is:was compromised ?? 

I mean, I’m trying to identify where I go wrong with my mental health and one thing I do is hang upon people on the mobile. I don’t like speaking on the mobile anyway but I have this terrible habit of just saying 

‘ oh I can see your fine or some such 

and say gotta go and hang up.

im writing / speaking from my trauma. All those years of being hypersensitive are being remembered.

Well yesterday a person rang me and I did that to him. I said, “oh, …….. I hope things go well,  I better get going bye and

I hung up, I didn’t 

 think of anything. Then 
my husband said well he’s not going to call you again.
and I listened. 
@Jynx @heartathome @Chasingsunsets @Mustang67 

@TAB 

[heartathome]

I hate talking socially on the phone too, @PeppyPatti @Cuddlebear I can relate to being rejected by 'friends'. I got involved with a cult once that encouraged people to leave family and friends behind. After I left, they would have nothing to do with me. It broke my heart to see my small son not understand why he couldn't play with his friends anymore. While I was in the cult all my 'friends' left me as well. I've never felt so alone! Thankfully, that was many years ago and I have finally returned to a mainstream church that I'm comfortable in!

[REDLINEZ750]

 @rav3n @heartathome @DownMoreThanUp @Cuddlebear @TAB @Jynx   @Chasingsunsets @Mustang67 @Dreamy   @PeppyPatti @AlwaysMyself   @Glisten   @RebelliousAngel @Appleblossom   @ENKELI @Shaz51 @StuF  @DownMoreThanUp  

thank you @Mustang67  heres some different ones i hope also remind the good people  to back themselves as quite often we take on guily  from  the ignorant failings of others

[Cuddlebear]

@PeppyPatti   My daughter lives far away. She’s working nights and at school during the day trying to have enough money for rent and food etc. So it is hard for her to come visit and I’m not well enough to do so. She messages. I’m deaf so can’t hear over phone so I use texts 🙂 I do engage and encourage and support her too. I love doing that as she’s so precious to me. 

My friends at least the big majority have really let me down. I don’t ask for much just to message and have a chat about how things are, what they have been upto and a laugh. I think they just want me to support them through rough times but don’t want to do same for me. Through this I’ve learned who my real friends are. 

Trauma does make us feel hypersensitive but I think for me people have really let me down. I don’t ask engage and listen to them and provide that emotional support. 

We are all different and I’ve found you to be such a kind and generous soul. Phone calls are very hard for heaps of people with trauma and other disabilities too so don’t be hard on yourself. You are doing the best you can. 

[Cuddlebear]

@heartathome  Sounds like you are having a great day! I love 80’s music too! Yes I really want the support button to be working so people know I am supporting them. It just started working for me again now. 

I hope the counselling with recovery program goes well. I’ve been doing the other recovery program that doesn’t have the counselling 🙂 It’s really good. 

[Dreamy]

Hello @Cuddlebear my sweet, how are you feeling? It's been really tough for me lately, I had very little sleep last night so I've been resting today, feeling very emotional and fragile. I'm safe and doing my best to keep pushing through. 

[heartathome]

Your personal support button has arrived! It won't let me use emoji's in the quick reply but here's a heart for you!

[PeppyPatti]

I laugh my head off on some of your posts too. I’ll tell you next time 

• I personally thought that post was very important to @TAB however wasn’t it an arm

   

   AND a hand ? 

[PeppyPatti]

Ooooh @Bunniekins 

look who posted a bunny rabbit !! @Mustang  

[PeppyPatti]

It’s pretty easy to get hooked isn’t it @heartathome 

It wasn’t your fault and I must confess I’ve been so wrapped up in a church many years ago I can see how easy it is 

thanks for telling me. I think we blame ourselves if our adult children are not perfect. 
it’s not our fault