~ The Toolshed ~

[AlwaysMyself]

Thanks @Dreamy 

Hugs to you @Meowmy and hope things get better soon.

I've noticed an inside reaction I've had twice now to ones about "being a burden". 🤔 because I may not currently be a burden to people (because I try to carry it myself or through paid services). But I do believe it would be burdensome on my family member if I were to live in a way that was to enable me to cope better. It would be a financial burden, and a physical burden. And I think that is reality - if i wasnt working and thus could not pay fully for my expenses. And if I still was not able to do cleaning and cooking for myself then either I have to pay someone (further financial burden on them) or get my family member to do it (physical burden on them). 

Whether they are *willing* to accept that burden instead of the alternative outcomes is a different issue.

What is my thinking missing here?

Am I taking the sentiment more literally than it is intended?

[Cuddlebear]

@Dreamy  Good morning to you and Caspar. Loving the affirmations. I really resonated with the one that said it may not feel like your holding it together but you are. 

Anything on for you today lovely? 

[Dreamy]

@Bunniekins hehe those photo elves must have been snoozing this morning 😂. 

[Dreamy]

Morning @Cuddlebear my sweet, yes I resonate with that one also. You my sweet are doing absolutely amazing at holding it together even if it doesn't feel like it, I'm so proud of you ❤️.

I have a shopping trip on today but other than that i don't have any plans. What about you?

[Cuddlebear]

@AlwaysMyself  Worries about being a burden are difficult to navigate. I personally don’t think you are a burden at all and having support from family and /or good friends is not too much to ask. You are such a reasonable person and very very considerate of other people. It is ok to ask for some extra help. You do a lot for yourself already and we all need support from other humans. People who love us and care are usually willing but often don’t know exactly how to support us. It is ok to ask for help and it’s not a burden. It’s an act of love when someone supports us in the way we need. Like when my friends ask for support I am more than happy to provide it. I don’t view it as burdensome. If anything it makes me happy that they trust me enough to reach out. 

[Cuddlebear]

@Dreamy Thank you for the encouragement. I’m doing the best I can and with support from here I can push forward and keep reminding myself that this won’t last forever. It just sucks anyone has to go through tapering it’s an awful thing to be honest. I’m hoping the new medicine will work. 

Today I’m going to take Wilbur for a walk and a friend of mine is doing a Zoom with me at 2pm so we can catch up. It helps to have some face to face contact and I’m looking forward to it. Other than that I’m just going to be home and getting through the day as best I can. 

are you on a food shopping trip or something else? 

[Glisten]

@ENKELI~ as a Christian I believe my something amazing will be Heaven. I do however ask God regularly why I can't have it a teeny tiny bit easier in the here and now while I wait for Him to take me home, country road...

What you said right there 👆🏼 is why I admire you and in general people with faith.

But especially you my Retiisi. You are one of the most unique and powerful people, that I have virtually ever met 😄

[Glisten]

Hi 👋🏼 @Dreamy the image elves took a little while. Always good to see your posts.

@Meowmy I have seen your posts. I don’t think there are any words of comfort when a loved one is ill.

Just know that you have been and continue to be in my thoughts.

[Meowmy]

@Glisten dear Glisten, thank you so much for your kindness. Take care 

[ENKELI]

@Glisten it is because of my Sane family that I am beginning to believe in myself. I never used to believe I was a "good" person because of the way I have been treated by former friend and employers. Being told I was racist by one manager, I started to question my ethics. An Indian work colleague told my manager that she felt I was racist when I was training her. She later told another colleague who she didn't know was a friend of mine that she said that as she didn't want to do the job she'd been hired for. 

Even now as I mention it I get a little teary. 

Anyway, being supported by my friends here has helped so much. People don't realise when they meet me that I am quite sensitive and even more so in the past few years because of the trauma of everything that has happened.

You, I believe are an amazing woman my darling Tomaatti, also resilient and I bet you have 500 friends on FB because you attract people to your energy (a very Non-Christian thing to say but I couldn't think of a better description!) and your Phar Lap sized heart.